Maybe you have experienced this before. You are walking along, minding your own business, when another girl walks by and compliments you on your outfit, hair, glowing skin, your great smile, or a number of other things. It’s simple. It’s a moment in time. But you feel so energized, so light, so “omgosh wow!” afterwards! Turns out compliments are powerful for both receiver and giver. There is actual science behind this.
Biologically, giving and receiving compliments unlocks surges in serotonin and dopamine. These two chemical messengers are connected to mood regulation, well-being, and sense of reward. To receive a compliment can increase self-esteem and connection to others. When you give a compliment, you boost your own mood and is a practice in the art of gratitude.
Turns out, though, that people often hold back on giving compliments because we tend to underestimate how powerful and impactful they can be. However, the reality is that compliments often matter more than you realize. Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment”. While some people may feel initially uncomfortable, more often than not a genuine compliment is received positively – and a simple thank you is likely all the response needed.
I, for one, want to consciously make more of an effort to give compliments more. Why not, right? After all, they cost nothing to give and can make all the difference in someone else’s day. When giving compliments, remember:
- Keep it simple – deliver a short and specific compliment.
- Be genuine – do not force a compliment. Be honest and sincere about what you say. Remember that your body language and facial expressions are part of your delivery.
Next time you have the chance to show kindness through a compliment, go for it! You will likely boost your own mood and day in the process too! That is the power of compliments: we lift ourselves up while lifting up those around us.